The Mystery Of WHITESPLAINING
If I were a white guy and I commented on a fb thread where mostly black people were talking .and one or more of them said that I was commenting in a way that was patronizing and kind of sounding like I was trying to explain to them what the “real” situation was. And that this was one way that a subtle type of racism rears it’s head among so-called liberal and progressive white men as well as lots of women? Would I get angry and say NOT ME ! and deny that I was “whitesplaining” and say I was just expressing my opinion. And when the black people told me that they get this all the time and thought that because I was at least trying to be some kind of progressive they would try bringing the subject up and that I might even thank them for telling me. Instead when they told me that I got angry and said “ha well I see my thoughts are just not wanted here…so I won’t EVER comment here again.. even when they told me that my opinion is welcomed it’s just the way I approached them..I then act like I didn’t even hear that part.. ….Sound silly does it not . Well In the last year I have made a point of telling so-called progressive white people how we feel when they do this. I consider this the “last frontier” of racism …getting along with white people who at least SAY they want to work with us. Well my score has been 50-50..about half the time the white person …men and women have listened.. some even glad I pointed this out ..and many have made it a point to work at not doing this..the other half mostly end the conversation not me ! I was NOT whitesplaining okay I just won’t comment where my opinion is not wanted..I have several white friends with whom I have had this conversation and it really did enhance our relationship..I have had some people to thank me for doing this..I had one who managed to vandalize my Facebook account and got me shut down for two days..( how do those guys know how to do that stuff ) some who simply don’t comment and or turn away when I see them in public…but mostly they just get real mad…well I’m going to continue to do this when it’s fair and proper to do so..for me and that percentage of white people who have gotten something from it..
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